Evin Cosby made an off-hand comment for the NY Daily News that, while very telling, struck me weird.
She said, at the opening of her store called “PB & Caviar” (an impossibly unclever name) she can relate to Sen. Barack Obama having his black credentials questioned because she’s always had hers questioned as well. “Everyone has their way of speaking and living their life. No one should be judging and assuming that because I’m black, I have to speak in that hip-hop way. That’s something I prefer not to do.” She feels disconnected from people who didn’t grow up privileged.
Right.
Nevermind that some “privileged” white people these days sound more”hip-hop” than black people–I guess it’s not surprising to hear this kind of bullshit fall out the mouth of one of the Cosby kids—the only one to have risen their head from the sand, albeit for PR purposes . What’s troubling is she’s propping up the myth of Black, not Black: the idea that there are two types of black people, and she prefers to deal only with her types of people. Evin’s got the ‘Itis–no, not THAT Itis, Cosbyitis, the self-deluded affliction of the Black middle class who believe because believe they have a certain amount of money or influence, they are somehow better than other black people, and can’t relate to “those” kinds of black people. Evin says she feels Obama’s pain. Evin–while exceptionally cute!—needs a better publicist. Evin Cosby is out-of-her-mind crazy.
It’s funny and ironic that her Dad, who once described himself as “off the corner,” made his mail talking what she calls “hip-hop,” or what linguists call African American Vernacular English and what most of shorthand as “Ebonics.” Funnier still that she says she doesn’t talk to those type of people, that she doesn’t have them in her circle of friends. She brags about it. It’s funny, but I pride myself on having friends in The White House and in Jomo’s House of Ribs: on my ability to walk through any ghetto or golf-course in America unshook. Some call it my ability to “code switch:” I call it being Black in America. To be Black in America, you better know how to get down with everyone, in every situation, because, truth be told? You never know what kind of situation you’ll end up in, and you’d better be able to talk or fight your way out, in any scenario. Black people can survive, but they can’t thrive in a vacuum. Because you may not always have money and the (white and boujie) friends that come along with it. But you will always be black, and there will always be black people who are far more willing to help you than your country-club cronies. You can’t roll talking ill on your folks and not think it’s going to find you, bad. How do you imagine you are better than people that look like you?
I don’t think because you’re black, you owe it white people—or black people, for that matter—to shuck and jive in a way that makes them comfortable. I refuse to, and that’s part of my problem. Note to Evin: I think if you want to survive in America, you’d better know how to related to everyone, or else all that pricey education doesn’t mean much. Because if it didn’t teach you how to relate to people—real people, not just the people playing Bid Whist on Daddy’s yacht—then you got cheated. Just remember when you have to shutter up your little boutique in a year or so that even Da Little People spend money. Best not to dis them.
There are two kinds of people in this country: winners and losers. And you can’t always tell who they are by how they talk. Square biz.
August 12th, 2008 | Uncategorized
I’ve got to be honest. I registered to comment because I so disliked your article on this issue. I felt it was snarky and closed minded. It’s clear that you feel she broke some unwritten code of silence, when she may have been inarticulately trying to praise Obama. I particularly liked your jibes against her so called wealth, I forgot how being middle class or even rich insulated you against your race.
Just addressing your actual comments, you actually contradict yourself fairly openly in your article. This is where this debate drives me crazy. One on hand, you claim there is no ‘hip hop vernacular black america’, this is the myth that this stupid rich girl (I’m paraphrasing of course) has bought into, probably as a way to differentiate herself from the black mass to white people (right?). Great. Pile on some criticisms of her father – apparently it’s totally ok to criticise someone based on what their family has said and done, maybe I could poke into your family, look at their lives and then call you a hypocrite. Sound fair?
But then we start praising your ability to code switch – But what’s code switching? Adapting to different ways of expressing yourself or speaking. Like hip hop vernacular? Don’t look now, if we admit that hip hop vernacular has any prominent place in black communities, the terrorists win! You seem able to congratulate yourself quite loudly about ‘being able to relate to anyone through code switching’, but then point to Evin’s inability to do the same as ’some ignorant untruth about the black community’. Maybe she should be able to relate to anyone, maybe she is in the wrong, but your pointlessly snarky comments about her being rich put you in the wrong. And pointing out that she cannot relate to X community, even her own is a valid comment. Also I love the nice comparison between ‘country club white people’ and ‘honest to goodness black people’ – why not just go all out with the ludicrous characterizations: racist evil corporate white people vs Martin Luther King and Jesus.
Why don’t you just call Evin an uppity, acting white uncle tom and be done with it? It’s clear that for all your ‘wit’, this is your underlying sentiment.
Comment by pololly — September 10, 2008 @ 12:40 am